Infidelity Counseling
Have You Been Betrayed By Your Partner?
You may have recently discovered a troubling series of events that your partner has been engaging in. It’s possible you had no idea that your partner has been involved in out-of-control sexual behaviors or infidelities. As a result of your discovery, you are left with the shock of deep emotional pain. Perhaps you have recognized that you shook off uneasy feelings and clues indicating something was not right. Now, you are struggling to continue to try to cope with harmful cycles of fear and anxiety. To make matters worse, your partner continually tries to reassure you that nothing is wrong.
Due to these discrepancies, you are frustrated and have mounting sensations of self-doubt and distress. The foundation you thought that you had in your relationship no longer exists. The split second you recognize that you have been betrayed, your sense of safety begins to disintegrate. The trust you had is broken and the person that you trusted the most is no longer who you thought he or she was. Your partner has been living a secret life.
So What Do You Do?
The coping tools you are accustomed to using no longer seem effective. You feel so confused that you don't know how to proceed as your new circumstances are unfamiliar to your being. It is not uncommon that you try to cope through telling yourself to detach and be strong, only to be left struggling with deep emotional pain. You may fiercely seek out reading material about betrayal, infidelity and sexual addiction to find relief. That is good. However, as soon as you feel you've gained some foothold, your overwhelming emotions surface, the ladder of hope you climbed upon appears to have a broken rung and now you are freefalling. Once more, you feel isolated and you don't know where turn. Fortunately, you do not need to feel alone with your pain!
Infidelity Counseling Can Help You Reclaim Your Life After Betrayal
Educating yourself and learning about recovery from betrayal, out-of-control sexual behaviors and the effects of infidelities is a positive step forward. In the beginning, it often feels like you cannot find any answers to your questions or relief for your pain. Healing after you experience betrayal is a grieving process. The good news is that people survive the throws of betrayal and emerge much stronger and more defined than they had ever imagined.
Because everyone’s grieving process has its own unique course attached to one’s personality, you and I will work together in our infidelity counseling sessions safely, compassionately and non-judgmentally. We will tailor a plan for your own personal healing.
Once you understand that the relationship you thought you had is no more, your confusion and emotional pain will start to make more sense. The treacherous road of recovery from betrayal is a difficult one to move through. However, with my support, guidance and knowledge provided during infidelity counseling sessions, you will have the chance to take the necessary steps toward redefining your fulfilling life.
In sessions, I will guide you through the stages of your grief, which will help you understand the irregular emotions that you feel and discover tools that you can use for your personal grieving process. We will also work together on exercises to help you define a new solid foundation for yourself. In addition, during infidelity counseling sessions, you will explore ways to stay physically and emotionally grounded during a time when you feel most disconnected.
As a therapist since 1986, I have helped individuals and couples who have experienced betrayal and infidelity find relief and peace of mind. These people are proof that you too can gain positive growth and recover from the trauma, sadness and anxiety of betrayal.
You do not have to be isolated and alone. With the appropriate and individualized support of infidelity counseling, you will be able to create a new and solid foundation for positive personal growth and development. You can discover your true strengths and take charge of your life.
You may be interested in infidelity counseling but still have a few questions and concerns…
I feel like I am on an emotional roller coaster that I can't control. Is this normal?
Research shows that following a discovery of infidelity and/or out-of-control sexual behavior, people often experience acute stress with symptoms of PTSD. This trauma produces triggered responses including:
Emotional turmoil, such as depression, anxiety and fearfulness
Self-protective behaviors (e.g. you act like a detective by checking and searching for more information)
Obsessing about the trauma and discovery
These painful emotional responses are common. However, by taking the courageous first step to get help for yourself, you will to have the opportunity to learn the necessary tools to slowly diminish these negative responses.
Why do I feel I have to know everything down to the minute details?
Individuals who are betrayed often initially want a complete disclosure of their partner’s infidelities. This is a way for you to try to make sense of everything. It helps to validate suspicions that you may have tucked away and blamed yourself for. The feeling of having to know everything is also a part of trying to fully understand the situation and gain a sense of control. Infidelity counseling sessions can help you regain an emotional balance so you can begin to make decisions for yourself in a way that you feel comfortable, instead of making decisions while you are in turmoil.
I don't think infidelity counseling will help me. No one understands what I am going through.
When you first learn about your partner’s secrets and out-of-control sexual behaviors, the shock you experience is like a tidal wave washing over you. Experiencing intense emotions like this can easily make you feel like you are alone with your pain. In addition, sexual matters are often a taboo subject in our culture. As a result, you feel like others will quickly pass judgment on you. However, with safe, compassionate and expert treatment, you will learn effective recovery tools that many individuals and couples have used to heal from these painful experiences. With infidelity counseling, you, too, have the chance to feel stronger and more resilient as you move forward after your experience with betrayal.
Schedule An Appointment
If you are dealing with betrayal from your partner’s out-of-control sexual behaviors or infidelities and you are ready to focus on healing, I am here to support and guide you through your healing process. To schedule an appointment with Naomi Casement LMSW, CAADC or if have any questions about infidelity counseling please do not hesitate to contact me at (810) 964-5400 or via email at nvcase0911 (at) outlook.com.
After discovering your partner's betrayal, you may be looking at your partner in a new light. This is normal and disorienting. While you may want the relationship healed, It's okay to carve out space to consider your boundaries before moving forward.